Genesis 2:18 Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.”
Sometimes this verse speaks to me in different ways, depending on what I’m going through at the time. However, I always feel amazed at the fact that God saw an emptiness in man’s life and designed us to fill that space. We were made to be helpers, which is straight from God’s mouth. What does that mean? The Hebrew word ezer means helper and is also used to describe God as our helper in Psalm 115:9-11. Would we ever think of God as serving us because he is our ezer? Of course not. Because He is our helper; He is our support system and our partner.
When you think about your relationship with your husband, think about ways in which you can be a support system for him and a partner to him. To me, this means you strive to create harmony in the relationship and not discord. I truly believe our husbands are heavily influenced by watching how we handle situations, our interactions with other people, how we manage stress, and raise our children. I believe we are to be an example to our husbands of what it looks like to walk with Christ. 1 Peter 3:1 says “Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives.”
So when you think of your relationship with your husband (or future husband), I want you to think about ways where you can be a support system and a partner. There are so many verses in the Bible to guide us in this journey. A few of my favorites are:
• 1 Corinthians 7:1-16
• Proverbs 31:10
• Ephesians 5:22-33
• Proverbs 18:22
• Proverbs 12:4
The Bible also instructs us to seek counsel. Proverbs 11:14 – “Where there is no guidance, a people falls, but in an abundance of counselors there is safety.” If you’re not sure where to turn, start with a church leader. Often there are many resources for us that we are unaware of. It is important to seek Godly counsel. The best way to discern if it’s Godly counsel is if their advice follows the scripture and doesn’t contradict what God has said.
And the best advice I can offer is never, NEVER, stop praying for your husband and your marriage. Even when things are going well, the first prayer I pray before bed is for my husband’s spiritual journey.
Think About It:
1. What are some ways your husband sees Christ in you?
2. What scripture keeps you focused on the success of your marriage?
3. What is your favorite prayer to pray for your husband and marriage?